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Somatic therapy for grief that hasn't moved, emotional numbness, and the loneliness of holding it all together — in person near Richmond, Virginia, or online across Virginia and Washington, DC.
Grief doesn't always look like crying. Sometimes it looks like functioning beautifully — showing up, meeting deadlines, holding everyone else steady — while something inside has gone quiet. Numbness isn't the absence of feeling. It's a nervous system turning the volume down on something it judged too large to feel all at once.
That protection works, and it costs. A system that dampens grief tends to dampen everything with it: appetite, joy, closeness, the sense that things matter. People often describe it as flatness, or as watching their own life from a slight distance. And because they are still performing well, the people around them rarely notice — which becomes its own particular loneliness.
Loss is not only death. It can be a relationship, a career, a body that changed, a version of yourself you had to set down, or a childhood that never quite arrived. I draw on Somatic Experiencing® and Inner Relationship Focusing to meet grief in the body rather than in the retelling, and this work often overlaps with complex and relational trauma.
Feel flat, blank, or oddly far away from your own life
Are grieving a loss the people around you seem to think you should be past
Function well in public and come home with nothing left
Feel lonely in rooms full of people who genuinely care about you
Can't reach tears, anger, or joy — even when you want to
Sessions in person at my ADA-accessible Henrico office in the Richmond, VA area, or by secure video anywhere in Virginia and Washington, DC.
